I can't speak about other private schools, but having put four children through the Catholic schools here in RI, it is always remarkable to me how responsive these institutions are to parental concerns, and how flexible they are when new situations arise.

Justin, great point. I think that "opening" a childs mind is nurturing that is best delivered, calibrated, censored (and all those things) by parents. Teaching a child to discriminate, i.e. right from wrong, usual from unusual, funny from offensive (and all those things) during age 0 to about 18 helps them (and I say helps them protect themselves) from the anything-goes exposure they are sure to experience during college "education", should they choose that path. I would rather my son and daughter make their own decision about whether Tom and his wife Bill is weird, or ok, based on the values they learned at home than how a taxpayer funded indoctrinator thinks they should think. I pay for my kids' education so they learn math, science, language, history, and yes, RELIGION as well as art, music and phys-ed. I'll take care of the values, its what my parents did. (By the way, I think Tom and Bill are "weird", but I'll never tell my children that :)