Once Again Making the Central Point, Which Supporters of Same-Sex Marriage Somehow Never Manage to Address (At Least Not Until the Debate Has Gone on Long Enough That the Average Person Has Stopped Reading)
How is it possible that people who ostensibly pay attention to the news and to the public dialog still make such arguments as Charles Bakst’s on behalf of same-sex marriage without addressing a response — stated in many public discussions for years, now — that is central to the opposing side’s worldview? Here’s Bakst:
[Bishop Tobin] admits the sky hasn’t fallen in Massachusetts. “But I don’t think the sky would fall if Massachusetts legalized prostitution, polygamy or incest either.”
I cringe when I see such words employed in any discussion of two men or two women who seek the joy, stability and respect offered by marriage.
The bishop asserts that “the onslaught” of gay weddings “should create more than a little anxiety for thoughtful and insightful people.” The dictionary defines “onslaught” as “a fierce attack.” But gay marriage is not an attack on anyone else or anyone else’s marriage.
The movement to recognize same-sex relationships as marriage is an attack on the very meaning of marriage and, as such, harms anybody who benefits, or would benefit in the future, from a strong culture of marriage as it has historically been defined. Topping a list that ultimately includes every person alive and yet to be born are those whose economic, emotional, and (yes) spiritual wellbeing is threatened by their own inclinations away from stable, monogamous marital relationships and those who are born to such people. The increased strain on people who are irrevocably homosexual — and are therefore unlikely to enter into such marriages as they, in possession of full equal rights, are absolutely permitted — is regrettable, but the repercussions of the alternative would be exponentially more so.
Bakst’s point of view entirely lacks sense unless “marriage” is, by definition, merely an intimate, committed relationship between adults. However much he might cringe, therefore, both incest and polygamy between consenting adults fall under his representation of equality.
Advocates for the maintenance of traditional marriage have been challenged, in recent years, to define their view of marriage in such a way as to exclude alternative definitions without relying on religious dogma or bigotry. They have done so much more thoroughly than advocates of same-sex marriage (but nothing further) possibly could. Little wonder the latter are so apt to ignore the points of the former.
Perhaps Mr. Bakst, with his expressed wish for “more people, wherever they stand, [to] speak up,” will endeavor, in a future column, to prove me wrong.